Rock your baldy...

"Women's liberation will not be achieved until a woman can become paunchy and bald and still think she's attractive to the opposite sex."


Earl Wilson


Unspeakable Speaks:

Alright listen up, I cried for a total of 11 minutes when I was told that I was going to lose my hair by the oncologist. But after that there was no more crying to do. It is apart of the process people, it will grow back. Honestly, shaving my head was the most liberating thing I did during my treatment. Weekly visits to my barber became the norm, and I sat confidently in his chair looking forward to the finished product, a freshly shaven head. Occasionally, I wore scarves, but as long as the weather was conducive, I wore my head out and loved it. I received more compliments with a bald head than I ever did with long hair.

In some cultures it is believed that having a bald head helps you communicate better with God. Everyone has a different experience with it, but I challenge you to embrace and rock your baldy! Cover your head when you are going to treatment, so that you are protected from any infections or germs but allow the sun to beam down on you and reenergize you from head (literally) to toe. Be free and be aware that there will be people that stare and are uncomfortable with your new look. Let that be their problem and you continue to focus on your total and complete healing. Remember that in order for new life to exist all dead things must be removed. You are not your hair!

India Arie....I am not my hair

Lipstick and High Heels!

“It takes more than just a good looking body. You've got to have the heart and soul to go with it.”

Epictetus


Unspeakable speaks:
When I was undergoing cancer treatments, I made it a point to look my best at all times. It was in looking my best that helped my family and friends cope with the reality of my illness. Let's just be honest, there are always going to be those around us that require more of our attention and although it is not their particular situation, the reality of it touching someone close to them, cuts deep. In instances such as these, you may find yourself having to comfort your family more than anything. For me, I found that looking good gave them more confidence in my healing. I didn't have to spend time talking about my healing, I simply walked it out daily in high heels!

There are countless stories about how people chose to beat their cancer. But this video touched me deeply. Take the time to pray and choose for yourself the method and strategy that you will use to win....and then do it! This is no different from any other trial or tribulation that threatens your life, so make the decision today to wear your lipstick and high heels and live victoriously!

Click the link below to view this inspiring video!

"Why I wore lipstick to my mastectomy."

Humbled......

"Death ends a life....not a relationship."

Robert Benchley


Unspeakable speaks:

Today I attended the funeral of my 2nd grandmother (my 2nd mother's mom). She embraced me and my daughter like we were her own and she never treated us any different than her own biological children. She consistently checked up on me when I was going through Cancer treatments. She enlisted her pastor and extended family to pray for me and my family without being asked. She would write me monthly and we shared a bond that could not be articulated verbally. She was for all intensive purposes, my grandmother. In my reflecting, I found myself humbled by the life that she led. This woman was amazing, and the outpouring of love and support that surfaced as a result of her passing was only a small part of the impact that she made in the lives of those around her. I only shared the last 15 years with her, but the gentle touch of her spirit, left an imprint on my soul that can never be erased.

I thank God daily for allowing me to see another day. But today I thank Him for allowing me to be apart of the lives of those that did not make it. There is no way that I would have made it through my journey without my family praying for and supporting me and I do not take that lightly. Relationships are what makes our lives worth living...First, your relationship with God, Secondly, your relationship with yourself and Thirdly, your relationship with your family. These relationships shape who you are as an individual. If you are determined to be great in life, take a look around you...look at those in your own family; celebrate and honor them while they are still alive, because you never know if they will make it to tomorrow.